Thursday, December 22, 2011


LIARS - Thou Shall Not Bear False Witness

A number of online sources make reference to four types of liars, all of which may be lies of omission or commission, and all of which relate to one's internal view of self and the boundary between self and other:
  1. WHITE: Be Nice liars are protective of the self esteem of others.  The little white lies that protect someones feelings.  They will fudge the truth to spare emotional upset in the moment.  
  2. SELF-ESTEEM: Want to Look Good liars are protective of their own self image and esteem.  They may exaggerate their 'glory days', or their achievements so as to look better than what they fear they are. 
  3. AVOIDANCE: Want to Avoid Conflict and/or Confrontation liars.  These lies are often about not saying what one is upset about, not confronting aggression if there is no reasonable expectation of change, not 'rocking the boat' when such would generate negative consequences, get one fired, etc. 
  4. PATHOLOGICAL: Wanting to Get Desired Response Now liars. These lies do not appear to have any rationale other than the liars motivation to get what they want when they want it, without concern for 'truth' or for the consequences their lies will have on others. 

While the commandments may not make such a distinction or set out a definition of what specifically qualifies as 'bearing false witness', very few people tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, all the time.

To me, the commandment refers to the words that harm another person, present a false reality as truth, or steal the truth, life, and prosperity of another.  This type of Liar is a predator, who preys on others for self-gain.  They may be bullies or thieves or politicians.  They may be con artists or sociopaths. They may be amoral or immoral.

Many are able to lie with a impunity.  They have no conscience, no shame, and no sense of responsibility.  They will compliment you in one breath, while they are trying to get something from you, and threaten to kill you or your dog in the next breath because you refused them.

The liars I am referring to are those who claim credit for work that is not theirs, those who claim to represent others or their products when they do not represent anyone but themselves, and/or those who claim to BE someone else.



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